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Victoria Audley's avatar

I love hosting people but I feel like that's because I'm such a homebody! I don't like going out, I want the party to come to me lol.

I'm thinking I need to read Anna Karenina - the things you like about it are very similar to what I'd say about my favourite book (another classic, in certain circles), Middlemarch.

I think I get the restless hands as well - I never find mobile games satisfying for that, I need to be making something. I always wished I had a natural talent for art because I think if I could sketch or do some sort of traditional art it would fill that need for me. But I've never prioritised learning so that's on me. I use knitting for this now - I always have a project I'm excited about and that I think is worth doing, and it lets me empty my mind and focus on listening to or watching something else.

I'm so glad I've deleted all my venture capital-funded social media platforms. I'm still on Dreamwidth, which is full of wordy, thoughtful, introspective, creative, and interesting people writing long-form, and Pillowfort, which is Tumblr for people who hate(d) Tumblr and has been such a fantastic creative and fascinating community for me. I feel like every day some new artistic medium crosses my path on Pillowfort and I'm learning about something new people out there in the world are passionate about every day, and it is such a joyous thing in my life. There's very little in my online life that's short-form content and I actually enjoy the time I commit to keeping up with these two platforms. It feels good, fulfilling, inspiring, fascinating, and I feel connected to the people I build relationships with there. I don't miss Facebook or Instagram or Twitter. They weren't adding anything of value to my life.

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Molly Hodgin's avatar

"I am filling my mind with other people’s thoughts, and they are crowding out my own." Really feel this

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